I always wanted an open relationship with my children so that when they got to be teens they could come to me about anything. ANYTHING! And so far….. they have. Do they talk to me about drugs? yes! Do they talk to me about sex? Absolutely!! masturbation? Yep, that too. There really isn’t a topic that is “off-limits”, and I don’t think that there should be. I may not always answer a question if it is too personal, but they are always free to ask. I answer them honestly and matter of factly. Is this how parenting should be? By being open about these issues, does it diminish my authority as a parent? I don’t think so……My daughter often tells me that I am her Best Friend because she can tell me anything. Can we be our children’s “friends’ and still be “the parent”? Or am I setting myself up for difficult times ahead?
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This weekend I got some great shots of my oldest daughter Lauren. I consider this a great achievement for a couple of reasons, number one being she posed willingly for numerous photos and had fun doing it. In the past she has always been resistant to getting her photo taken. I had managed previously to get some shots of her and a friend while they were goofing off being silly, dressed up in her 8 year old sister’s dress up clothes, but other attempts were unsuccessful.
The photo shoot turned out to be a lot of fun for both of us. I found the red dress she is wearing at the Thrift Store earlier that morning for $6.99. I had her put the dress on, then I did her hair and makeup. When it was time to start shooting, my husband put his iphone on her favorite Pandora radio station, so music she liked to hear was playing in the background. We took a lot of photos, several of her dancing and goofing off, intermixed with the serious shots.Because we shot in Raw, and not JPEG, I did not keep all the shots taken, only the ones we really liked.
Greg and I rented a backdrop for this weekend, so we had her change into one of her own favorite dresses for the next set of shots . The pictures turned out great. I was thrilled. But what was most satisfying, and what makes this such a huge achievement, is that Lauren liked all the pictures also. SO many times we have gotten photos taken, and she never liked them. It always made me sad, because she is such a beautiful girl. For her to like her own photos is very gratifying. And since this was something that we had fun doing together, it makes each photo all the more special.